....new archetype of partnership.....
The following is a 2 paragraph quote from the latest book by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt entitiled: RECEIVING LOVE.
"There is a new archetype of partnership evolving in our culture. Marriage is alive and well, but the form of marriage is changing, as all forms do when they no longer fulfill their originating purpose. The personal marriage, which is dominant today, focuses on meeting personal needs at the e xpense of the relationship. This is the marriage that is being abandoned by more than 50% of couples every year. The lesson our culture is learning very painfully is that it does not work to be self-centered, to look out only for yourself. We are by nature relational creatures and connection is our essence. Although we cannot actually lose our connections, we can lose our awareness of them. And when we feel disconnected, we not only suffer, but we inflict suffering on others.
The marriage of the future will become a partnership where the focus is no longer on the individuals involved, but on the relationship itself. For the first time in history, marriage will be healing, because it will restore wholeness and transform society. The partnership marriage will be characterized by commitment, dialogue, the absence of negativity, and the increase of appreciation, empathy, and kindness. Monologue will be replaced by dialogue, symbiosis with differentiation, and conflict with connections. The current question is, 'How can this marriage meet my needs?' The new question will be, 'What does our relationship need?'
"There is a new archetype of partnership evolving in our culture. Marriage is alive and well, but the form of marriage is changing, as all forms do when they no longer fulfill their originating purpose. The personal marriage, which is dominant today, focuses on meeting personal needs at the e xpense of the relationship. This is the marriage that is being abandoned by more than 50% of couples every year. The lesson our culture is learning very painfully is that it does not work to be self-centered, to look out only for yourself. We are by nature relational creatures and connection is our essence. Although we cannot actually lose our connections, we can lose our awareness of them. And when we feel disconnected, we not only suffer, but we inflict suffering on others.
The marriage of the future will become a partnership where the focus is no longer on the individuals involved, but on the relationship itself. For the first time in history, marriage will be healing, because it will restore wholeness and transform society. The partnership marriage will be characterized by commitment, dialogue, the absence of negativity, and the increase of appreciation, empathy, and kindness. Monologue will be replaced by dialogue, symbiosis with differentiation, and conflict with connections. The current question is, 'How can this marriage meet my needs?' The new question will be, 'What does our relationship need?'
posted by Nancy Ross at
1:06 PM
0 Comments:
Post a Comment
Subscribe to Post Comments [Atom]
<< Home