A HALF CENTURY? OH, MAN!
RAMBLINGS ON A SUMMER DAY
Fifty years is a LONG time. Fifty years plus 21, even longer. Clo, my life partner of 16 years just turned 50. In Sept., I turn 71. Dear goddess and all the angels, how did we get so many years under our belt??? And on our waist-line and etched on our faces.
We had a week of grand and glorious celebration. We have been celebrating: 50 years of life, both hard and soft, on this planet, for Clo; the magnificent job she has done in the renovation of our home and yard; the beautiful summer retreat area our back yard gives us and those we love; friends; relatives; differences; the French, American, and Canadian connections in Clo's life as well as mine; blending families; catching up with old friends; and integrating new friends.
Whew. Quite a job. I didn't look at it so clearly until just now as I was writing. No wonder I've been tired. Clo kept going. She does. Pretty soon she will be tired, too. Right now, she keeps going.
We had twice as much food as we needed. Good! I ALWAYS fear not having (thus, not being, of course!) enough. Multi-cultural food with: sushie, samosas, salsa, egg rolls, tapenade, fruit, veggies, baggette, marvelous cheeses from lots of places, St. Honeree Cake, can't think what else.
That was Sat. night. Sun. was a grand tour of wine country in a limo with 9 woman. What a hoot! Lunch at Henry of Pelham's and dinner at Strewn. Home by eleven, safe and sound, tired, full (of food, laughter, fun, learning, connection, loveliness, and love).
Don't wait until you are 50 to celebrate yourself! Life feels difficult sometimes. Time out, into a space bubble of your own making, to intensely experience the moment and you and what you have created thus far in this life time, helps make sense out of being here on this planet.
Why are we here? Who am I? Where do I belong? Whew!! Big questions. Some of my answers to those questions would be: I am Clo's partner, mother of 4, grandmother of 3, one of two mother's of Aimee, psychotherapist, dreamer, writer, friend. One of my many delights is working with couples. I am trying to build, in my fashion, a bridge between my U. S. culture and Clo's Quebec culture.
What would your answers to those 3 questions be? Dialogue with your partner about them. It's fun. Helps you feel connected, grounded, updated. Who you are today is not who you were 20 years ago or who you will be in 15 years. That's good! Change and transition are a constant. We are always transitioning from day to night, old to new, pain to health, negative to positive, sad to happy. The challenge of change and transitions must be shared with your partner. If you don't take intentional note that a new baby has come into the family and that changes things; or you have just returned from a business trip and are a different person than when you left; or you have made a decision to do something in a new way, the change of energy between the two of you will be felt but unexpressed. And that causes distress, tension, pain.
Take at least 20 minutes every evening to intentionally check-in with each other about who it is you are today. Just listen. Don't judge. And as always, remember to breathe!
Warmly, Nancy Ross
Fifty years is a LONG time. Fifty years plus 21, even longer. Clo, my life partner of 16 years just turned 50. In Sept., I turn 71. Dear goddess and all the angels, how did we get so many years under our belt??? And on our waist-line and etched on our faces.
We had a week of grand and glorious celebration. We have been celebrating: 50 years of life, both hard and soft, on this planet, for Clo; the magnificent job she has done in the renovation of our home and yard; the beautiful summer retreat area our back yard gives us and those we love; friends; relatives; differences; the French, American, and Canadian connections in Clo's life as well as mine; blending families; catching up with old friends; and integrating new friends.
Whew. Quite a job. I didn't look at it so clearly until just now as I was writing. No wonder I've been tired. Clo kept going. She does. Pretty soon she will be tired, too. Right now, she keeps going.
We had twice as much food as we needed. Good! I ALWAYS fear not having (thus, not being, of course!) enough. Multi-cultural food with: sushie, samosas, salsa, egg rolls, tapenade, fruit, veggies, baggette, marvelous cheeses from lots of places, St. Honeree Cake, can't think what else.
That was Sat. night. Sun. was a grand tour of wine country in a limo with 9 woman. What a hoot! Lunch at Henry of Pelham's and dinner at Strewn. Home by eleven, safe and sound, tired, full (of food, laughter, fun, learning, connection, loveliness, and love).
Don't wait until you are 50 to celebrate yourself! Life feels difficult sometimes. Time out, into a space bubble of your own making, to intensely experience the moment and you and what you have created thus far in this life time, helps make sense out of being here on this planet.
Why are we here? Who am I? Where do I belong? Whew!! Big questions. Some of my answers to those questions would be: I am Clo's partner, mother of 4, grandmother of 3, one of two mother's of Aimee, psychotherapist, dreamer, writer, friend. One of my many delights is working with couples. I am trying to build, in my fashion, a bridge between my U. S. culture and Clo's Quebec culture.
What would your answers to those 3 questions be? Dialogue with your partner about them. It's fun. Helps you feel connected, grounded, updated. Who you are today is not who you were 20 years ago or who you will be in 15 years. That's good! Change and transition are a constant. We are always transitioning from day to night, old to new, pain to health, negative to positive, sad to happy. The challenge of change and transitions must be shared with your partner. If you don't take intentional note that a new baby has come into the family and that changes things; or you have just returned from a business trip and are a different person than when you left; or you have made a decision to do something in a new way, the change of energy between the two of you will be felt but unexpressed. And that causes distress, tension, pain.
Take at least 20 minutes every evening to intentionally check-in with each other about who it is you are today. Just listen. Don't judge. And as always, remember to breathe!
Warmly, Nancy Ross
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