Heads and Tails

I have been reading some of my past blogging. Don't have regrets about what I have written. What I like about blogging is I am who I am. All by myself. Sometimes someone out there reads who I am. Once in a while, someone comments. But on the whole, I see this as my story as I tell it to myself. I am so very aware that as I commit to helping couples and families with adult children heal and grow, I am trying desperately and valiantly to heal and grow myself. It amazes me how hurt and sadness and fear can raise their snarly heads and beat their heavy tails (read tales) on my heart. And I let it happen.

How can we simultaneously be the centre of our universe AND know when it isn't about me?! Absolutely I lead with my awareness, my information, my experience, my soul. So does everyone else. Thus, it feels about me and it very well may not be the case. Sorting that out can only be done via dialogue. Having a third person help guide that dialogue can help. I am right. You are right. I need to give you more information so you can know why I believe myself to be right. And I need to listen to you and understand you and have more information so I can see that you too, are right. When we both feel seen, we both can relax. It is safe know. No one is bad or wrong. Life can continue and I can move closer and closer to joy.

The goal for life as we know it in the physical on this planet is to learn how to always walk in joy. Especially how to walk in joy with each other. That is love. Feeling our natural, innate, god-given, primary right to embracing joy to it's fullest.

Let me help you practice. I will focus on the positive with you. Negative hurts. It hurts our heart, our soul, our self esteem. Positive heals. It helps us feel safe and happy. And as my father taught me in his 80's, it takes less muscles to smile than it does to frown.

Take care. Enjoy the rain. It comforts, washes us and the stones clean and nourishes life.

Nancy