Stress and Sadness
I'm feeling sad. I don't think life has to be so sad. I think we are meant to be happy and we create our own sadness. But sometimes I just don't know how to stop myself.
It's sad when someone I love distances from me. It is sad when change I don't want is imposed upon me. I feel sad when I believe myself to be tooting along doing life as best I know how and I find that clearly I am not enough.... I suddenly felt like I am whining and I HATE whiners! So, enough of that.
Stress is much like sadness: To me it feels like it is imposed upon me from the outside. But I really know I created it all by myself from inside me. I think, thus I feel. Given that appears to be the case, what I need to do is change what I think. Then I can change how I feel. Soooooo I have contributed to a significant rift between my dearly beloved daughter and myself. I am sad I did that. She needs time. I tell myself bad things about myself. Not helpful!
What I can do is walk gently in love and joy: for her, for my life, for the universe. My sad and probably frightened feelings create negative energy and that is what I walk in. When I breath, focus, pull inside myself, I can image joy, I can image the sun, blue sky, soft breeze, smiles and love. Remember! Remember times of love and laughter, closeness and joy. Let go of, walk away from, darker feelings. The darker, negative feelings simply perpetuate the disconnect and discontent and increase the feelings of stress.
This is true for you and your partner as well. Decide to shift your focus. Decide to feel music, light, smiles, to remember the fun and safe feelings that were once there. And know with all of your heart and spirit, that that positive place of safety and joy belongs to both of you. Laugh when it isn't very funny, smile when you feel down, skip when you want to sleep, fast when you want to gorge, breath when you want to cut yourself off from your feelings, hope when all feels dark and gloomy.
Intentionally shift. And write to me to let me know if being intentional relieves some of the stress. And when some of the stress is lessened, let me know if you feel safer and more connected. And when you reach joy, which takes time and intentionality, give a loud whoop of pleasure and rejoice in your wisdom and strength.
Enough preaching. Man, do I do that a lot. Let me hear how you are doing. I care.
Warmly, Nancy
It's sad when someone I love distances from me. It is sad when change I don't want is imposed upon me. I feel sad when I believe myself to be tooting along doing life as best I know how and I find that clearly I am not enough.... I suddenly felt like I am whining and I HATE whiners! So, enough of that.
Stress is much like sadness: To me it feels like it is imposed upon me from the outside. But I really know I created it all by myself from inside me. I think, thus I feel. Given that appears to be the case, what I need to do is change what I think. Then I can change how I feel. Soooooo I have contributed to a significant rift between my dearly beloved daughter and myself. I am sad I did that. She needs time. I tell myself bad things about myself. Not helpful!
What I can do is walk gently in love and joy: for her, for my life, for the universe. My sad and probably frightened feelings create negative energy and that is what I walk in. When I breath, focus, pull inside myself, I can image joy, I can image the sun, blue sky, soft breeze, smiles and love. Remember! Remember times of love and laughter, closeness and joy. Let go of, walk away from, darker feelings. The darker, negative feelings simply perpetuate the disconnect and discontent and increase the feelings of stress.
This is true for you and your partner as well. Decide to shift your focus. Decide to feel music, light, smiles, to remember the fun and safe feelings that were once there. And know with all of your heart and spirit, that that positive place of safety and joy belongs to both of you. Laugh when it isn't very funny, smile when you feel down, skip when you want to sleep, fast when you want to gorge, breath when you want to cut yourself off from your feelings, hope when all feels dark and gloomy.
Intentionally shift. And write to me to let me know if being intentional relieves some of the stress. And when some of the stress is lessened, let me know if you feel safer and more connected. And when you reach joy, which takes time and intentionality, give a loud whoop of pleasure and rejoice in your wisdom and strength.
Enough preaching. Man, do I do that a lot. Let me hear how you are doing. I care.
Warmly, Nancy
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