Overwhelm and Balance
Last week was blazing summer! Today is total fall. What happened? I can change clothes pretty much but it is always the shoes. I hate shoes! I like sandals: free to wriggle my toes and not hot and stuffy.
Nonsense aside, I have been writing on Linkedin about Overwhelm and Balance. It annoys me that so many of those who responded talked about their overwhelming life and then gave us the overwhelming details. I want to discuss the affects of overwhelm on YOU and learn from you ways you intentionally find balance.
As I see it Overwhelm is when life is simply too hard. Too much going on and not enough resources to safely support you. You are no longer safe and secure in your trust that you can pull it off day by day, year after year. What I do when I am overwhelmed is take a nap. Really! I call it my integrating time. For me, overwhelm means too much chaos, unmanageable demands upon my time and attention, problems I don't know how to solve....a nap with Aimee on my belly and legs settles me and brings me back to a place of safety and sanity.
I am serious about this! Aimee's gentle energy and unconditional love give me great comfort. She helps keep my heart in sinus rhythm. Everyone needs something comparable in their lives at least occasionally. Balance means bringing in moments of respite. Breathing space. Relief from facing the war zone over and over again. One of the things I share with clients is that having an end point helps: in one week things will shift, by this time next year this will be solved, ....somethings don't have an end point. So we have to create our own: in one week I will take half a day and just rest, walk, listen to music, dream, read, do yoga...
Sometimes we have to turn the burden over to someone else, even when it isn't ideal. My friend's mom has two broken hips and wants to live with my friend who has 3 children and a more than full time job out side of her home. It isn't an option. She and her mom need to find other ways to care of her and let her know she is loved and safe. Even when it feels like there is no way out, there really is! It may not be your first choice or even your second, but if you fall apart, the whole system goes down the drain. When you feel overwhelmed, think BALANCE. I MUST find balance.
Then do it! Write to me. Tell me what you do or want to do or wish you could do when you are overwhelmed. We could chat. I don't have answers, but I may have hope. Hope is a good thing.
Warmly, Nancy
Nonsense aside, I have been writing on Linkedin about Overwhelm and Balance. It annoys me that so many of those who responded talked about their overwhelming life and then gave us the overwhelming details. I want to discuss the affects of overwhelm on YOU and learn from you ways you intentionally find balance.
As I see it Overwhelm is when life is simply too hard. Too much going on and not enough resources to safely support you. You are no longer safe and secure in your trust that you can pull it off day by day, year after year. What I do when I am overwhelmed is take a nap. Really! I call it my integrating time. For me, overwhelm means too much chaos, unmanageable demands upon my time and attention, problems I don't know how to solve....a nap with Aimee on my belly and legs settles me and brings me back to a place of safety and sanity.
I am serious about this! Aimee's gentle energy and unconditional love give me great comfort. She helps keep my heart in sinus rhythm. Everyone needs something comparable in their lives at least occasionally. Balance means bringing in moments of respite. Breathing space. Relief from facing the war zone over and over again. One of the things I share with clients is that having an end point helps: in one week things will shift, by this time next year this will be solved, ....somethings don't have an end point. So we have to create our own: in one week I will take half a day and just rest, walk, listen to music, dream, read, do yoga...
Sometimes we have to turn the burden over to someone else, even when it isn't ideal. My friend's mom has two broken hips and wants to live with my friend who has 3 children and a more than full time job out side of her home. It isn't an option. She and her mom need to find other ways to care of her and let her know she is loved and safe. Even when it feels like there is no way out, there really is! It may not be your first choice or even your second, but if you fall apart, the whole system goes down the drain. When you feel overwhelmed, think BALANCE. I MUST find balance.
Then do it! Write to me. Tell me what you do or want to do or wish you could do when you are overwhelmed. We could chat. I don't have answers, but I may have hope. Hope is a good thing.
Warmly, Nancy
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