The Healing Power of Giving and Receiving
I came back from France with more energy than I had when I left for France. However does that work? It has maintained itself all week. It isn't difficult to get up at 7 or 7:30 am and afternoon naps are not only no long crucial, but I can't sleep. Though I can take resting and thinking, processing and integrating time. Something I absolutely need so I can keep up emotionally, physically, and spiritually. I still can't take groups of people, feel I have tired ears and heart when with 2 or 3 people socially after a couple of hours, and have no need to venture very far beyond my semi-quiet life.
I think France challenged me physically and intellectually and I found myself failing dramatically. However, the very fact that I pushed through 2 weeks of exhaustion and uncertainty, surrounded by beauty, history, mystery, and love was a miracle and I have come out of it a stronger and better person. What that looks like and feels like in the long run is yet to be seen.
I share this with you because I really want you to take seriously the value for you and your partner in each and every "opportunity" as my daughter-in-law calls it. My cousin Gail says, "Another ....... growing experience, right Nance?" I call them challenges and growth option. Walking away from each other feeling hurt, angry and scared only wounds you both. Holding hands and facing the tidal wave together, as Clo did with me in France, strengthens and deepens.
I have my "opportunity" to give her extra loving support now. She is having quite a bit of internal physical pain and is in the midst of tests and doctors scratching their heads. She absolutely needs me and deserves for me the step up to the plate. And I pray I do the job well. I know I do it in love.
Every relationship has it's opportunity for reciprocity. And it often doesn't take long to emerge. Remember, when you keep your partner feeling safe, and your partner helps you feel safe, almost anything can be faced together. Take a deep breath! Close your eyes. And remember how it feels to give love. And how it feels to receive love. I highly recommend Harville Hendrix's book, Receiving Love. One of the many important things he has to say is that we most of us feel we can give love, but often times we really don't know how to receive it. And the truth of the matter is, if we can't fully receive, we really can't fully give.
Can you REALLY open your heart to what is out there for you? Can you feel the love of a beautiful sunset? A child's laughter? A partner's hug? A flower, a bird, music, good food prepared for you.....Take in what is offered with an open welcoming heart. Trust. Most always we are well intentioned. Seldom is anyone really TRYING to give us grief. Take a minute right now and go give someone a hug or a big kindly welcoming smile. More later. Love, Nancy
I think France challenged me physically and intellectually and I found myself failing dramatically. However, the very fact that I pushed through 2 weeks of exhaustion and uncertainty, surrounded by beauty, history, mystery, and love was a miracle and I have come out of it a stronger and better person. What that looks like and feels like in the long run is yet to be seen.
I share this with you because I really want you to take seriously the value for you and your partner in each and every "opportunity" as my daughter-in-law calls it. My cousin Gail says, "Another ....... growing experience, right Nance?" I call them challenges and growth option. Walking away from each other feeling hurt, angry and scared only wounds you both. Holding hands and facing the tidal wave together, as Clo did with me in France, strengthens and deepens.
I have my "opportunity" to give her extra loving support now. She is having quite a bit of internal physical pain and is in the midst of tests and doctors scratching their heads. She absolutely needs me and deserves for me the step up to the plate. And I pray I do the job well. I know I do it in love.
Every relationship has it's opportunity for reciprocity. And it often doesn't take long to emerge. Remember, when you keep your partner feeling safe, and your partner helps you feel safe, almost anything can be faced together. Take a deep breath! Close your eyes. And remember how it feels to give love. And how it feels to receive love. I highly recommend Harville Hendrix's book, Receiving Love. One of the many important things he has to say is that we most of us feel we can give love, but often times we really don't know how to receive it. And the truth of the matter is, if we can't fully receive, we really can't fully give.
Can you REALLY open your heart to what is out there for you? Can you feel the love of a beautiful sunset? A child's laughter? A partner's hug? A flower, a bird, music, good food prepared for you.....Take in what is offered with an open welcoming heart. Trust. Most always we are well intentioned. Seldom is anyone really TRYING to give us grief. Take a minute right now and go give someone a hug or a big kindly welcoming smile. More later. Love, Nancy
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