I Love My Work
A fresh, hot, strong cup of decaf, sun shinning, blue sky, lovely music, the most adorable puppy on the plant sleeping ON my feet.......what more could I ask for in life!
Have I told you lately that I love my work? I really do. I am so fortunate. Some people go through life not caring one way or the other, or hating their work, or vaguely dissatisfied, or vastly dissatisfied. Not me. When I get restless, I just change how I am with clients to add a bit of freshness for me. I get such interesting couples. Even those who think they are ordinary have their own unique stories, challenges, and desires.
My latest is open adoption. I am working with a couple who know the birth family of the daughter they have adopted. They adopted 3 years ago when the baby was 6 weeks old. For the first time they have hit an impasse that requires some guidance. What admiration I have for ALL involved. The birth parents have full access to the little girl. They are beginning to date again and are asking for overnight visits of a week or longer. The adoptive parents feel it is too disruptive to the child. Especially given that there are two very different cultures and cultural values involved. Already the little girl is fluent in at least 3 languages.
Thus far we have had as many as 6 of us in one room discussing what is best for this child. It is wonderful she is so loved and wanted. When is enough too much?? At this point I want to say," Just let her be a normal little girl!". Then I have to wonder what I mean by "normal". For her, this IS normal. Fortunately her adoptive parents are pregnant, (isn't that interesting how that happens sometimes!), so she will no longer be an only child. I love this family, bless this family, and so admire the commitment and devotion by most all of the family members, both biological and adoptive. And I think the little girl needs some breathing space.
Sharing our love. To much focus on one person can become overwhelming for that person. Sometimes kids like to just not be noticed for a bit. Just let me be naughty and pretend you didn't see it like probably would have been the case if there had been siblings around. Think about giving your kids a break from you! We so often long for a break from the kids. But I suspect the other way around is important as well. Too often I work with couples where one or both are VERY reluctant to allow anyone other than the two of them to care for the children. That has a tendency to exhaust a family. One evening a week or weekend, 2 to 3 hours minimum, you and your partner need alone time just for the two of you. Take a walk, have a glass of wine, snuggle together and watch a romantic movie, go to your favorite bakery and pig out.....whatever is fun for you both.
There is no such thing as too much love. But there is a danger in too much attention. ALL parents are doing the best they know how to do. Guidance can be encouraging, supportive, informative, and loving. Email me or phone, I am available for connection before a session. And I am delighted to help you feel more relaxed and relieved as you travel down the path of parenthood, always doing the best you know how to do.
Hugs, Nancy
Have I told you lately that I love my work? I really do. I am so fortunate. Some people go through life not caring one way or the other, or hating their work, or vaguely dissatisfied, or vastly dissatisfied. Not me. When I get restless, I just change how I am with clients to add a bit of freshness for me. I get such interesting couples. Even those who think they are ordinary have their own unique stories, challenges, and desires.
My latest is open adoption. I am working with a couple who know the birth family of the daughter they have adopted. They adopted 3 years ago when the baby was 6 weeks old. For the first time they have hit an impasse that requires some guidance. What admiration I have for ALL involved. The birth parents have full access to the little girl. They are beginning to date again and are asking for overnight visits of a week or longer. The adoptive parents feel it is too disruptive to the child. Especially given that there are two very different cultures and cultural values involved. Already the little girl is fluent in at least 3 languages.
Thus far we have had as many as 6 of us in one room discussing what is best for this child. It is wonderful she is so loved and wanted. When is enough too much?? At this point I want to say," Just let her be a normal little girl!". Then I have to wonder what I mean by "normal". For her, this IS normal. Fortunately her adoptive parents are pregnant, (isn't that interesting how that happens sometimes!), so she will no longer be an only child. I love this family, bless this family, and so admire the commitment and devotion by most all of the family members, both biological and adoptive. And I think the little girl needs some breathing space.
Sharing our love. To much focus on one person can become overwhelming for that person. Sometimes kids like to just not be noticed for a bit. Just let me be naughty and pretend you didn't see it like probably would have been the case if there had been siblings around. Think about giving your kids a break from you! We so often long for a break from the kids. But I suspect the other way around is important as well. Too often I work with couples where one or both are VERY reluctant to allow anyone other than the two of them to care for the children. That has a tendency to exhaust a family. One evening a week or weekend, 2 to 3 hours minimum, you and your partner need alone time just for the two of you. Take a walk, have a glass of wine, snuggle together and watch a romantic movie, go to your favorite bakery and pig out.....whatever is fun for you both.
There is no such thing as too much love. But there is a danger in too much attention. ALL parents are doing the best they know how to do. Guidance can be encouraging, supportive, informative, and loving. Email me or phone, I am available for connection before a session. And I am delighted to help you feel more relaxed and relieved as you travel down the path of parenthood, always doing the best you know how to do.
Hugs, Nancy
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