Women Friends Who Bond With and Help Heal Each Other
A very dear friend from my past life as director of the Day Treatment Centre and the Psychodrama Centre at Battle Creek Adventist Psychiatric Hospital 20 years ago, came back into my life a few months ago. We talked on the phone some, she sent me a lovely Christmas card, I responded and the we talked! Oh my, did we TALK. You know! The way you talk with someone you know and knows you, you care about and cares about you, someone bright, energetic, wise, dear and very special. I felt so seen and cared about and understood. I felt so open and giving and available.
A few years ago her husband died of cancer. I have found the mentor/friend/comrade I have been looking for to walk through this journey with me giving me wise and loving suggestions and helpful support. I feel blessed. And oh, so fortunate. And this isn't one sided at all. She has a grand child, I have three, she lives alone with someone special in her life, I support and admire her choices. There is absolutely nothing in the world like women exchanging information, support, caring, history, similarities and differences with each other. Our women friends help us produce healing and bonding hormones. Feelings of well being and joy for life.
There is a particular depth of intimacy shared with a life partner that includes sexual and physical intimacy not shared with anyone else. There is a particular depth of understanding and knowing, that leads to intimacy, with special women friends that finds a place of connection and security like no other place. Both intimacies founded on integrity and to be held in profound honour. Not in competition with each other. Differently equal. And differently life enhancing.
Learn to nurture your life partner. Never let go of the power of the relationship with special, dear, beloved women friends. Make a list of the women who have impacted on your life. Women you know, knew, read about, heard about, made up. My first female hero was Joan of Arc and my second one was Wonder Woman. Closely followed by two precious aunts and a very gifted woman in University who taught me Improvisational Drama and Street Theater, who guided and loved me out of a trapped life and told me I had talent and hope.
It is fun to look back and realize the influence these women have had on my life and to wonder what parts of them I have incorporated into me. I would love to hear about your heroes. Who have you come to love as you age and find peace and joy in knowing they hold you in their heart and you in yours?
Get at that list. I am SURE it will give you a lift, put a smile on your face, and help you take deep relaxing breaths of life giving oxygen.
Hugs, Nancy
A few years ago her husband died of cancer. I have found the mentor/friend/comrade I have been looking for to walk through this journey with me giving me wise and loving suggestions and helpful support. I feel blessed. And oh, so fortunate. And this isn't one sided at all. She has a grand child, I have three, she lives alone with someone special in her life, I support and admire her choices. There is absolutely nothing in the world like women exchanging information, support, caring, history, similarities and differences with each other. Our women friends help us produce healing and bonding hormones. Feelings of well being and joy for life.
There is a particular depth of intimacy shared with a life partner that includes sexual and physical intimacy not shared with anyone else. There is a particular depth of understanding and knowing, that leads to intimacy, with special women friends that finds a place of connection and security like no other place. Both intimacies founded on integrity and to be held in profound honour. Not in competition with each other. Differently equal. And differently life enhancing.
Learn to nurture your life partner. Never let go of the power of the relationship with special, dear, beloved women friends. Make a list of the women who have impacted on your life. Women you know, knew, read about, heard about, made up. My first female hero was Joan of Arc and my second one was Wonder Woman. Closely followed by two precious aunts and a very gifted woman in University who taught me Improvisational Drama and Street Theater, who guided and loved me out of a trapped life and told me I had talent and hope.
It is fun to look back and realize the influence these women have had on my life and to wonder what parts of them I have incorporated into me. I would love to hear about your heroes. Who have you come to love as you age and find peace and joy in knowing they hold you in their heart and you in yours?
Get at that list. I am SURE it will give you a lift, put a smile on your face, and help you take deep relaxing breaths of life giving oxygen.
Hugs, Nancy
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