Out On A Limb Part Two

Just how much self disclosure do you want from a potential therapist? Not quite so much, might well be an answer. My blog entitled Out On a Limb was pretty risky. What I want you to know is that Clo and I have talked about it, we talked about it before I published it. She does not fully agree with me, especially the part about if I had been a better twin for her, maybe she wouldn't be so sick. She says I don't have that much power and she doesn't believe it is that simple and straight forward.

Clo has her story and I have mine. You have your story and your partner has theirs. Both are true. The trick is to share enough with your partner that they can understand your point of view. Not necessarily agree, but understand. I understand that Clo does not agree that I entered her dream and left mine behind. She never asked me to do that and had no idea that is what I was doing until I told her. She is angry that I did that and has reason to be.

Don't you get it? ALL relationships have huge challenges and those challenges/issues will demand to be looked at somewhere in your journey together. Sometimes it takes a major brick wall to force us to face where our next growth stretch is going to be. IT WILL HAPPEN! It will happen to you and your partner or primary person at some time if it hasn't already. This is NOT failure. It is growth, learning, stretching, healing, loving, changing, helping, seeing, understanding, many many thing, but NOT failure. What I want to share is that Clo has given me a powerful gift of love in forcing me to see how my accommodating self has colluded with her to change my dreams.

Here I am, going out on a limb again!  So there I go....if you have judgements or criticisms just don't read this stuff. My honesty is strengthening me on this shared and loving road I have with Clo and cancer. My hope is I have some words that might move something in you so you can have an awakening experience or learn something new about yourself and your partner. My need to be so visible is two fold: for me to share this burden, and to hope it has meaning for someone else. I owe it to myself to share what I am learning.

Feed back is always welcome. Hugs, Nancy